A handfasting ceremony, a centuries-old tradition, offers a unique and deeply personal way to celebrate your love and commitment.

In the heart of a handfasting ceremony lies a different kind of magic, one woven with threads of history, symbolism and deep personal connection.

What happens at a handfasting ceremony

But what exactly is a handfasting, and why is it suddenly appearing in weddings far beyond the realm of pagans and druids?

In a simple handfasting ceremony, the couple take each other’s right hands. The celebrant then wraps a ribbon or a cord around the hands, tying them together. The binding can be done in the form on an infinity knot.

The handfasting may be more elaborate than that. Sometimes the couple join both their hands. They might have a number of different ribbons draped over the hands and then tied together with a cord.

A time-honoured tradition, reborn

The origins of handfasting ceremonies are disputed. The act of binding hands together stretches back millennia, finding its roots in ancient Celtic cultures. Originally, it served as a betrothal ritual, symbolising a year-long trial marriage before a more permanent union. Over time, it evolved into a full-fledged wedding ceremony, often used when access to religious officiants was limited. Today, handfasting enjoys a resurgence, embraced by couples seeking a ceremony rich in meaning and personalisation.

Beyond the ribbon: materials and meanings in a handfasting ceremony

While colourful ribbons are a popular choice, the materials used for handfasting hold immense potential for personal significance to the couple. Consider these options:

  • Cords: Hemp signifies strength and grounding, while silk speaks of luxury and devotion.
  • Braided hair: Infuse the ceremony with a deeply personal touch by incorporating strands from each partner’s hair.
  • Family heirlooms: Lace from a grandmother’s veil or a scarf woven by a loved one adds a sentimental layer.
  • Nature’s bounty: Twigs, feathers, fresh or dried flowers connect the ceremony to the earth and its cycles.

Colours carry symbolic meaning, which will influence your choices.

More than just a couple’s ritual

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This ritual provides an opportunity to involve others in your ceremony.

A handfasting isn’t limited to just the two getting hitched. Consider involving others:

  • Family and friends: Ask loved ones to hold the ends of the cords, symbolizing their support and well-wishes.
  • Children: Include them by having them weave ribbons into the main cord, representing the creation of a blended family.
  • Elders: Invite them to offer blessings or pronouncements during the binding, adding depth and wisdom to the ceremony.

Things rarely mentioned about handfasting ceremony

  • Respecting traditions: If you are incorporating elements from specific cultures, ensure respectful representation and avoid appropriation.
  • Legality: A handfasting ceremony on its own will not be legally binding. If your celebrant is a designated marriage officer, she will be able to incorporate the legal procedures stated in the Civil Union Act as part of your ceremony.
  • Open communication: Discuss expectations and meanings with your partner beforehand to ensure the ceremony aligns with your individual values and beliefs.
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The ceremony is deeply symbolic.

Handfasting is more than just a pretty trend; it’s an opportunity to craft a ceremony as unique as your love story. By understanding its history, exploring diverse materials, and involving your loved ones, you can create a handfasting experience that resonates deeply and leaves a lasting impression on your hearts and those who witness your union.

Final thought

A handfasting doesn’t only have to be carried out at a wedding ceremony. It can be done during a baby naming ceremony, at an engagement, when a couple makes the choice to live together, to celebrate a special anniversary or at a renewal of vows ceremony.

Wordways Ceremonies offers handfasting ceremonies. Contact Vanessa today to discuss your special day.

 

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